What Does Not Kill Us

It is a sad reality that no one goes through life without being wounded in some way by one’s experiences. Sometimes our sufferings reach a point where we ask the question, ‘why me?’ We see those around us who are untouched and unscathed, and we feel angry that we have

Lovin An Illusion

We often tend to expect positive traits in a person whom we find attractive. This is why sometimes we only see what we wish to see in an individual. We imagine admirable characteristics simply because of the physical attraction we feel. However, it is entirely possible that our biases may

Knowing The Secrets People Keep

We yearn for the truth about things that can affect us. We seek it. We crave it. It is part of our programming as human beings. This desire to know springs from the necessity to feel safe and secure. We are driven by the need for certainty and what may

How To Defeat Enduring Misery

The beginning of self-awareness is believed to be linked to the earliest moments of our life when we initially respond to our name or when we first see a reflection of ourselves. The notion of a self-concept develops in us from that instant. Interestingly, once our awareness of self is

Are You An Enabler?

All of us desire acceptance. Our friends seek us out because they know we make them feel accepted. The dynamics of friendship require that we remain nonjudgmental towards one another. But what do we do when our friend shares with us that he is doing something ethically questionable? Should we

Taking Away The Power Of Fear

What keeps us awake at night? What fears haunt us? What nightmares visit us over and over?   Worrying about things that are important to us is a normal experience. But when do we know when it has gone too far? We worry because we desire things to go our

Breaking The Cycle Of Mistakes

It is an undeniable truth that we often create our own problems. We make the wrong choices. We suffer from the consequences of impulsive decisions. We lament the judgment calls we make when we let our emotions have free rein. When the end result of our decision displeases us, that’s

Love’s Broken Plans

You dream. You hope. You envision goals. You even devise a strategy towards their accomplishment. And you carefully execute these plans you have made. But every now and then one’s expectations will come to a disappointing conclusion. Because no matter how careful and patient you are, sometimes things don’t go

Overcoming Doubt

The one true threat to the longevity of a relationship is doubt. Trust is the foundation without which a relationship cannot exist. Doubt is the absence of trust. Whether or not there is a reason to doubt your partner’s fidelity, the end result is the same. Once there is doubt,

Avoiding Closeness

Why is it that we sometimes feel reluctant to become close to others? There are those of us who avoid closeness because we do not wish to need people. Others keep their distance because they are hesitant to trust and to have that trust broken. Some do not want to

The Right Time To Forgive

An unexpected affront by someone we know, someone we trust or someone we hold dear inflicts upon us severe emotional pain. The closer the person is to us, the more painful we perceive the offense to be. For it is a fact that strangers cannot hurt us, only loved ones